How To Find A Boyfriend As A Single Mom

If you are a single mother, you will want to go out dating again sooner or later. Everyone knows that single parent dating is not easy and being a single mom is not easy either. You are the one there for the child; you have to be the one to earn money and pay the bills. Also, you need to take care of the house and make sure your child is eating. This does not leave you time to get out and socialize. Without socializing, how are you ever going to meet a boyfriend?

You Need To Find Time

First and foremost, you will need to take some time for yourself. Rely on your family or friends to babysit, if they are willing. It helps if you can arrange even one day or one evening where you can get out and see friends, go to a community class or have a night out with friends.

Make an Effort

Yes, you are going to have to put some effort into this also. Boyfriends do not just fall into your lap, although it would be helpful. There are scores of places that you likely go to at least once a week where there are single and available men to date.

Go To Church, Shopping and School Meetings

Other than your place of employment, which likely has rules about dating fellow employees, there are places you have to go weekly, or you choose to go to. Stores are places where everyone needs to go to buy food, products, or clothing. You may see someone across the way that interests you. You can work your way closer to the person and strike up a conversation. Your child’s school will also have other single parents there. You may first meet single mothers, but they, like you, are likely looking for a boyfriend also. They may have a wealth of information in regards to finding single men.

The church is God’s home. What better place than to be at church feeling God’s peace and realize that there are single men in your church. This also gives one thing in common to begin with. You share the fact that you both attend the same church.

Go For A Cup Of Coffee Alone

When your child is not home, take yourself out for a cup of coffee and spend some time watching people. There may be an opportunity or two to strike up a conversation with someone. Also, when you are sitting alone just enjoying your coffee calmly, you seem more approachable, and men will take advantage of the opportunity and strike a conversation.

>>Also Read: Should You Date Someone With A Kid?

Visit The Park

Let’s not overlook the place that everyone loves to go to. This place is also the ideal place to take your child to wear off some of that never-ending energy. The park, not only does it have lots of room to run and play, there are swings and jungle gyms. However, look around. You are not the only parent there with their kids. I could almost bet that it is not all single mothers there too.

Talk about perfect, your child can make friends, wear off some energy, and it is quite likely that you will come across a single dad or two. This could leave your child wondering why they suddenly get to go to the park so often.

Try Online Dating Apps

eHarmony and Match are two ‘serious’ dating sites out of many, many sites that are available for single mothers to find a boyfriend. The majority of online dating sites enable you to fill in the profile in any way you want. You can let others know that you have kids; you can also let them know what you are looking for and give them a glimpse into who you are as a person.

Tinder is also a great option. I know that it has a bit of a reputation as a hookup app, which comes with the stigma of using it as a single mother. However, I often see many singles mothers on the app, and if they are on it, why shouldn’t you? 

For this step, it is highly suggested that you be sure that you are ready to date. Out of precaution, do not include any pictures of your child or children on your profile. Online dating is only as safe as you make it.

Do Some Volunteering

You can offer up hours at the local food shelf or homeless kitchen. The local food bank, your child’s school, or any other options for volunteering. These places need help; in many of them, you can include your child with you. The lesson it also teaches is one that every parent should teach their children.

Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

No matter what you choose to do, try to get out of your own comfort zone. Trying new things is a great way to meet new people. Gather your friends and go for some adventure, find a zip line location and take a chance, maybe hang gliding or jumping out of an airplane. The adventures are endless as long as you try.

Relax and Do Not Feel Pressure

Get rid of the notion that you have to be part of a couple. When there is no pressure, you appear happier. No one wants to meet someone who is overly stressed out. Let yourself relax and just enjoy yourself for a little while. Being a single mom is difficult, and looking for someone to date can add stress to that. 

Take Your Time

Not only for you but for your child or children. Do not rush to introduce the child to your date. This is a time for the two of you to get to know each other. If things do not work out, then the child does not feel the loss of a new friend. This is also when you trust your gut. Those little feelings that eat away at you, they are trying to talk to you. They are trying to let you know something, so listen.

Do Not Feel Any Guilt For Having a Boyfriend

As a single mother, there is no reason to feel guilty. Life is what it is. You are entitled to be an adult and date without the child, making you feel guilty. At the same time, do not feel desperate to find someone. Dating is not the be-all and end-all of life. When you can tell yourself that it is okay to be single and fully accept it, you will notice a change in yourself. You will notice a weight lifted off your shoulders.

Nowhere is it written that you must date by a certain age or time. As an adult, you also know the importance of keeping a balance in your life. There is still much for you to do in life on a daily basis; adding a new person in is perfectly okay, and you deserve to do so.

>>Also Read: Should You Date A Single Mom?

If you are a single mother, you will want to go out dating again sooner or later. Everyone knows that single parent dating is not easy and being a single mom is not easy either. You are the one there for the child; you have to be the one to earn money and pay the…