Can I Date During Lockdown?

It is more than evident that the Covid Pandemic has changed the world and everything we know about it. We find that we are told to shelter in place, we have to keep a social distance of 6 feet, we cannot go to restaurants, bars, and grocery shopping is like a wrestling match.

What this pandemic is doing to the dating scene is terrifying.

If you had just begun dating someone and you really liked each other, you were basically forced into a decision of moving in together or not seeing each other except for video calls or video chats.

If you had just begun dating someone, this pandemic messed up your whole life, at least that is how it feels. What are you supposed to do now? How do you continue dating? How can you build on a relationship if you like the person? Should you even date during lockdown?

Lets See Some Of Your Dating Options During The Covid Pandemic Lockdown

Video Chats/Calls

If you met someone on an online dating site such asĀ Tinder, you might have just begun messaging. This is something you can continue to do during the Pandemic. When messaging has run its course, and you both are ready, you can video chat online. It is definitely not the same as seeing each other in person. It is one way to move forward, though.

Thanks to video chats and video calls, you can still date, just not in person. Of course, this opens up the possibilities of coming up with things to do.

There are many ideas and suggestions that have floated around the internet since this lockdown and shelter in place took effect.

  1. Pick a movie from Netflix, and you can watch it together via your computer or your phone. It may seem odd, but grab your popcorn, your soda and sit together on the sofa, let the movie begin. You can still discuss it, make jokes about it, and have your snacks together.
  2. The same possibilities for doing what you can outside. Such as taking a long walk, the ability to have video calls helps to minimize the loneliness and solitude during this time.

Time To Really Talk

If you are among those who chose not to move in together, this time of pandemic gives you the chance to have some very open and detailed conversations. Whether you are video chatting or text messaging, speaking on the phone, or have decided to share a place during the pandemic, this is an opportunity to have deep and meaningful conversations. This is the time to air out any possible differences and discuss the important and unimportant topics that affect couples and life.

This is easily done by making a list of what each person thinks of as important, some unimportant, and all topics in-between. Topics such as living together, finances, habits, likes and dislikes, marriage and children.

You may be sharing a place, but that does not mean that you have consummated a relationship in the sexual aspect. That may be something that you want to hold off on until you are both more confident as far as a relationship.

There are other options to consider also during this time of lockdown, social distancing, and worldwide fear.

Should You Stay Off Dating Apps During Lockdown?

This is a time of uncertainty for all. Starting a new relationship is going to be stressful and may not be showing the best sides of either person. While this pandemic is happening, it may be wise not to participate in any dating apps.

Who Are You

This time gives you a chance to find the real you in the world of chaos right now. We all have things we want to do, things we want to change, and now could be the time.

FaceTime

This has become a popular manner in which to have dates during the pandemic. However, there is the issue of keeping the momentum continuing while using the app. The time will come when you have to ask yourself if you should move forward or not. Discuss this with the other person. They may be questioning this also. The final answer will depend on whether it seems worth it to you and to the other person.

An Actual Date

When you and the other person are comfortable with each other and also confident that you can continue, set up a date. Yes, an actual date. There is not much to actually be able to do on a date; however, there are ideas. Take a walk around the lake, go hiking, or have a picnic in the park.

If the two of you had decided to share living arrangements during the pandemic, do yourself a favor and think of something original. Something that brought you both together, to begin with. The other ideas are to have a painting night, where you make artwork together, pick a movie to enjoy together, and make popcorn.

Remember Feathers May Fly

Keep in mind that you are not everything for each other. There may be times when you irk each other pretty bad. Take some time to yourself and think. Cool off and then talk about the issue. Being cooped up is hard on everybody, so when you do not know each other, it can be even harsher at this time.

The Black Hole

The one thing that cannot happen is to ignore the issue. This not only will solve nothing but ignoring it will increase the size of the problem. Talking about issues is a must, and it will ultimately help to get along better.

Continuing Dating Via Video

It will, without a doubt, seem strange and difficult to do this, video dates can work for you both. They just take both of you accepting the challenge to make it work. You can share time cooking your dinners, watching movies, playing games, and enjoying the dinner you have cooked. This is done simply via phone. Prop your phones up so that you can see each other, you can watch each other. However, during game time, do not show your hand. You do not want to pass the win to the other so easily.

For those who believe in this and can feel comfortable, there is still the option of phone sex or video sex. This can ultimately be dangerous, though. Be sure to know and be able to trust the other person enough to not have the phone on record. This is a legal matter that will ultimately harm both of you.

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