How To Be Confident On A Date

That first date can be stressful and nerve-wracking. You may be really good at social interactions and have a “mad game”. However, no matter how good you are at dating and flirting, that first date is difficult. Not every person is confident enough about themselves to make conversation and interactions easy. There are ways to help you feel more confident on that date. There are little tips that can help, so you do not run out of conversation topics. Most of this involves the power of you.

Here Are A Few Tips To Be More Confident On Your Date

Be Open-Minded, That Will Exude Confidence

No matter what else is happening, stay open-minded on your first date. We all believe that we know exactly what we want in a partner. Certain traits that we look for and things in common that you can share. Sometimes though, this is not possible. When speaking online, whether you met on a dating app or just chatting on Facebook and Instagram, you may seem to get along well, conversation flows nicely, and you can even make each other laugh.

Meeting in person may change all aspects of what you believe. This is when you must stay open-minded. The person may outwardly look the opposite of what you want, but inwardly it is the same person.

Remember that these expectations you hold are not the determining factor of whether the date you will work out or not. What you want is not necessarily the one who will fit your life. The date you have may not fit your expectations; however, you may find new traits that are attractive to you that you did not expect. This is the benefit of being open-minded.

Expect Success And It Will Come

Before the date, tell yourself that the date will be successful. The date will be fun, and you will have a good time. In order for the date to be successful, you must feel the same. Choose the outfit that you feel awesome in. One that is comfortable and makes you feel positive. Attitude is everything. This does not mean you have to look perfect, just be the best version of yourself!

Take a moment and try to imagine what the date will be like. Imagine how the conversation flows smoothly, how you are able to joke and laugh with each other.

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Plan The Conversation 

Make a mental list of conversation starters. These are topics that you can bring up based on the other person’s profile. These topic starters should be in the form of open-ended questions. Some such as “Hiking or walking along the beach, which do you prefer and why?”. If you both enjoy sports, “What team is your personal favorite and which player?”. If you like movies and TV series, ask them about them; that will usually get the ball going. Another hot topic for first dates is hobbies and interests. Make a conversation plan, and you will see that the conversation will flow better. Being ready for a conversation and be in control of your thought process screams confidence. 

Keep In Mind That They Are Also Nervous 

Keep in mind that you are not the only one nervous about the first date; it is just as likely that your date is too. The fear that the date will not work out, the butterflies, everything you feel the other person is too. They might just as well be reading this article as well and make sure they can appear as comfortable as possible on your date. 

Do Not Overthink It

The first date is not the time to be overthinking everything you say and do. It is just time to remember to be you. This person that you have chosen to be on a date with wants to get to know you better too. So try to relax and breathe. Be prepared but be relaxed and try to have fun. 

Focus

Do not let distractions and lack of confidence get the best of you. Focus on your date, on the conversation, and not on what is going on around you. When speaking, look them in the eyes and talk; do not look down all the time. This is the biggest tell that you are not confident, and it’s honestly a turn off for most people. 

If All Fails, Fake It Till You Make It

You can mentally fake it when you feel the tension picking up. Imagine that you are someone else, someone who is very confident in front of others. Put yourself in their shoes. Fake it until you can make it. It might sound like an “easier said than done” time of situation, but it actually works. 

You Are Both Humans

People go through awkward moments. The two of you will go through them also. Do not hang on as if life is holding up by a string. Remember that you are both nervous. You cannot change who you are; you cannot change the beginning of the date. However, you can accept yourself as you are. If your date does want to get to know you, they will stop at nothing to do so. Neither one of you needs to make an effort to be someone other than who you are.

That first date can be stressful and nerve-wracking. You may be really good at social interactions and have a “mad game”. However, no matter how good you are at dating and flirting, that first date is difficult. Not every person is confident enough about themselves to make conversation and interactions easy. There are ways to…