Should We Split The Bill On The First Date?
The first date has finally happened, great dinner and even better conversation. The server sets the bill on the table, and for a moment, you hesitate. Who should pay the bill on the first date? Should you split it?
This will depend on a few things. The decision the two of you come to, whether it was arranged ahead of time and maybe who wants to.
The Gentleman’s Way
For centuries, many women have felt that the male should be paying the dinner bill when they go out. Times have since changed, and it has even become a common place for the female to pay the dinner bill. Of course, there is no reason that the bill cannot be split either equally or each person pays for their own.
First Date Etiquette
For those who seem to follow manners and the old ways of being a gentleman, it is perfectly okay for the guy to pay. Today, it is considered ‘right’ for the person who actually asked the other out to pay the bill. Whether it is a man or a woman. However, since more often than not, men ask women out, the bill is still stuck with the men. I do agree with this theory that the person who proposed the date should pay for the bill; so I do not believe that you should split the bill on the first date.
Proper Thing To Do
No matter who ultimately pays, some people believe it is far more proper for both to offer to pay. Again, pay for your own or offer to pay the whole bill. There was a time that women felt they were being bought if the man paid for the dinner. This was when the ‘going dutch’ term came into popularity. With each person paying their own meal, neither one felt that they were being pressured into a night of sex.
Who Chose The Restaurant
If you are the one who chose the restaurant, please, for your sake, be sure you can afford it. In all actuality, be sure to have a credit card or bank card that can cover the bill plus a tip. This is just to be safe. It is improper for someone to arrange a date to an expensive restaurant and then split the bill with you for an amount that you can afford or don’t want to pay.
If the other person suggested the restaurant, do some research so you are prepared for the cost if it is expensive. Be ready for what you are walking into. This includes even the dress attire and what is appropriate for this restaurant.
If the restaurant was suggested by the other person you have researched and found that this place may be out of your budget, you could suggest a different location. If the other person is not willing to change the location, you may want to double think about being with the person.
Should We Split The Bill On The First Date? – Summary
Our world is now filled with women who are strong and independent. However, it is nice to throw in a little tradition and the man to pay the whole bill. In the same breath, this strong and independent female might assume or presume that the man will still take charge of the money end.
Ultimately, if you, as the man, are prepared to pay the bill, you could say something along the lines that the next check will be her turn, especially if you felt the date went well. This will also signal to your date that the date was good, so she will have a self-esteem boost.
The first date has finally happened, great dinner and even better conversation. The server sets the bill on the table, and for a moment, you hesitate. Who should pay the bill on the first date? Should you split it? This will depend on a few things. The decision the two of you come to, whether…