What To Do If Your Husband Is On Dating Sites

To begin with, this is not your fault! This is something that does happen quite often in marriages. Before you pack up his stuff and throw him out, have a conversation. Yes, a conversation, NOT a yelling match. It is wrong of him to be on a dating site, but hear him out.

No Excuse, But Try To Work Things Out

If there were problems in the marriage, this is no way to go about solving them. Attempting to repair all wrongs will take patience and probably counselors. Cheating is cheating, even if it is just looking because he is on a dating app for a reason. It is a sin, it goes against your marriage vows, and it is very hurtful to the spouse.

This does not mean that the marriage is done; it does not have to be over. Give the marriage counselor a chance to help you both.

He Is Probably Unhappy – Hear Him Out

When you are done screaming and crying internally, trying to figure out what you did, which is nothing! You may want to remember that your husband is obviously unhappy. Was there some major change in his life recently? Again, nothing is an excuse for being immoral to your marriage.

Sit down and listen to him. Why did he feel the need to go on dating sites? Is there something you can help him with? Did he suddenly feel a desire to cheat, and if so, why? You also need to determine if the two of you want to work the marriage out. Did the two of you stop communicating? Stop interacting with each other? Life is busy; we hardly have time to enjoy our spouse or friends anymore.

Make Changes

Rather than looking at this foolish move on his part, think of it as a chance to rebuild and renew your marriage. This is often done without the spouse knowing. But you can change the situation. Rebuild from the beginning. Start going out on date nights. Find someone to watch the kids, and take some time for the two of you. In order to maintain your partnership in the marriage, you need to get to know each other again; you need to have fun and date again. You could visit a counselor if agreed upon.

However, if you can begin to change things to make them exciting again, he will realize how wrong he was and make the same effort towards you and the marriage.

Do Nothing

If you already feel the marriage is overdue to his online dating site presence, then so be it. You cannot force an issue if two are not willing. Be sure that you have the skills you need to support yourself and the kids if necessary. Granted, child support is usually mandated by the judge in divorce and custody hearings.

If you do nothing, the marriage will continue to fall further and further apart. This man is your husband, you love him, and he loves you. You two would not be married if that was not the case.

Fight to save your marriage, be young again, and make him want you. This may mean a hair cut, new clothing style, do what it takes to keep his eyes back on you.

I believe it is a safe bet that the two of you got all carried away with life, jobs, kids, and always doing for others. Par for the course, adults, do not think of themselves until it is almost too late. You have been given a chance to change this cycle.

Do Not Make It Public

These issues are not something the children need to know about. There is also no need to go telling your or his friends. This is no time for confrontation. Standing up and making this into a confrontation will make him feel he has to make promises, he may not be able to keep; he may lie to you. Most of all, remember this is not your fault. However, the time is now to change things so that this does not continue.

Feeling sorry for yourself or venting to your friends will not change the facts. You are in the midst of a decision you need to make for you, for your marriage, and for your family. You can either write it off as broken or grab the duct tape and start fixing those little rips and tears in your marriage.

To begin with, this is not your fault! This is something that does happen quite often in marriages. Before you pack up his stuff and throw him out, have a conversation. Yes, a conversation, NOT a yelling match. It is wrong of him to be on a dating site, but hear him out. No Excuse,…