Should I Date Someone With Herpes?

Herpes should not be a deal-breaker for any relationship. Herpes is a disease. Nasty, yes, but a disease just the same. There are many documented findings of people with herpes who have had no symptoms. Suddenly they have what is called a breakout. Does this make them a terrible person? Absolutely not! I could bet my life on the fact that they did not purposely look for an infected person and say, “Yay, now I can get herpes!” Get real, people. There are diseases that lay dormant for years before they show their ugly head.

Take Your Time To Get To Know People

Rather than being in a rush to have sex, maybe it is a better idea to get to know a person first. Too much casual sex, too many hookups from sites like Tinder, anyone could get herpes or another sexually transmitted disease. If all you are after is a quick roll in the hay, maybe this is something that should be on your profile.

Meeting new people that one hopes will eventually turn into a relationship or more is not based solely on physical desires. When two people talk about themselves before rushing into bed, they may learn more.

Always Use Protection!

Yes, herpes is not a disease anyone wants. However, the estimation is that one in six people between 14 years old and 49 years old has herpes. Precautions can be taken to prevent any further spread, other than abstinence, of course. Condoms should be worn when engaging in intercourse, orally, vaginally, and anally. There are also mouth dams that mean can use if they want to perform oral sex o their female partner. Abstaining from sex is the only practice in which either form of herpes will not be transmitted. Also, you should not have sex during a herpes outbreak, even with a condom.

Do Not Fear Herpes

Not only would it be scary to be told that the person you are really into and like very much has herpes, can you put yourself in their shoes a moment? They obviously did not know that a person they had been with had herpes. Whether the person just did not say or because they did not know. Imagine how scared they felt when they were diagnosed.

That person will never know how they actually caught the virus or from whom or when. Image catching a disease that will change your life forever and not knowing where it came from. Again, this disease can lay dormant for many years, so the best practice is to use condoms with all sexual partners.

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There Is No Treatment

Although it is sad to say, there is no cure for herpes. Some treatments can minimize outbreaks and make them less severe. There are currently three medicines in the USA that can help suppress the outbreaks. This is something that you should absolutely know if you are thinking of dating someone with herpes. 

The Beginning Of The Relationship

I know a few couples who have met and developed a relationship, even though one partner has herpes. Two of these couples are now happily married. When a couple begins to get closer to where the thought of making out or having sex is brought up, it is too late to tell the person. Herpes is something that should be discussed before the pair gets to this point. I am not saying you should bring it up on the first date before getting to know each other. Still, it would be unfair to ask the other person to invest their time with you if dating someone with herpes is a deal-breaker to them. 

Then you should have a serious discussion about protection and sex. If both of you do really care and like each other, herpes is not a deal-breaker, and you should continue dating.

Should I Date Someone With Herpes? – Final Thoughts

No one would ever be able to give you a yes or no answer. This will have to come from you. You need to decide how much you like this person. Is the person worth the risk?

When a person likes someone else, there is more to that person than herpes. There are long talks, there are commonalities, and there is love. Love is a powerful emotion. When someone informs you that they have herpes, remember they are much more than a diagnosis. They are a person, they are your other half, they want love as much as you.

After you have been informed of the diagnosis, research, and speak to your own physician. They can explain the protections and precautions involved to keep yourself safer.

Herpes should not be a deal-breaker for any relationship. Herpes is a disease. Nasty, yes, but a disease just the same. There are many documented findings of people with herpes who have had no symptoms. Suddenly they have what is called a breakout. Does this make them a terrible person? Absolutely not! I could bet…