Should I Lie In My Online Profile?

First, let’s get the obvious out of the way. Let’s say you are online looking for a perfect match. You strike up a conversation with a great person, chat for a while and arrange the first meeting. When you finally see each other, that person does not look the same, his or her name is not the same, and they really do not have that great job they mentioned.

Now ask yourself, “How do you feel about this person? Do you believe that you can trust them if you already found out that they have been lying all along?” I assume you will not be cool with it. And for that reason, you should not lie in your online dating profile. 

However, if you say that you felt okay about this person and learned that it was all lies coming out of their mouth, then, by all means, go ahead and lie on your profile.

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Honesty

Yes, our parents and other people we respect have always told us that honesty is the best policy. After putting yourself in the above situation and you have decided that you are not okay with finding out all the truth about them, it should not feel okay for you to lie on your profile.

Purpose

What is the purpose or the point of lying on a profile? Sooner or later, you will meet someone and have to confess to all the fibs and lies you posted. If a person does not like you for who you are, they do not deserve to have you in their lives.

Manipulation

When you lie on your dating profile, it is, in a sense, a form of manipulating people and also telling them that they may be rather dumb if they do not figure out that you had lied. Again, think about how you would feel or how you do feel when someone lies to you. It is an outright insult. When you are in an online dating profile, you are there to find someone special. You cannot, nor will you be successful in doing so if you are found to be a liar.

Wrong People

What you will find when you lie about yourself is that you will meet the wrong types of people. In order to meet the perfect match for you, you cannot be someone else. That is defeating the purpose.

Are Any Lies Okay

Granted, there may be some tiny white lies that end up being okay. They are not worth taking the chance over. Many people, male and female, will lie about their height. The difference may not make much difference to you. When it comes to lying about weight, that could have an effect. It should not matter, but to many people, it does. Age is another white lie that people feel is okay to make. Age is just a number. It should not be a huge deal to people as long as both are of legal age.

Most often, you will find an older male with the younger female, now it is seen both ways. Those are the people who know and understand that a number is only a number. It does not speak about maturity or responsibility.

Keeping Up With What You Said

Telling any lies on your dating profile is not only foolish for you but difficult. As you talk to a person, it would be stressful to remember all the lies that you have spoken. That stress can wear a person down.

Also, you could be one of those online dating liars who have the word passed around about yourself. You do not want to be on the list of lying scum. When the truth comes out, nothing is likely to happen—especially not a second date. If you really liked this person, they may become disheartened and will never call again.

Lying About Your Location on Tinder – Is It Ok?

The one lie that is an exception to the rule would be where you live. For the purposes of safety, lying about which town you live in is understandable. By that, it means that as long as it is in somewhat close proximity. For example, I live in a suburb of Minneapolis. So clicking my city as Minneapolis would be acceptable since it is the largest city near me. Most small towns are not listed, and you are stuck clicking the closest one anyway.

On the other hand, when you meet what you think is the perfect match, you realize that they are even further away than you originally thought. That extra distance could make or break the situation.

In Reality

To say that it is difficult to find a match when you are part of online dating does not even come close. With online dating, you stress over the right profile picture, you stress that you may not be tall enough for her or too tall for him. The distance apart is another factor that is considered when you want to start dating. What sense does it make to arrange a dinner date for a mid-week meet up if it would take you at least an hour to get to the location you’re date is at, have dinner and then get home and have enough sleep before work in the morning?

Starting a relationship with lies is a very poor way of beginning. Does that mean the whole relationship could be a lie? Is this what you want someone to think of you when they hear your name? Most people are capable of doing social media searches before they meet a person. This alone could signal the end of the date before it even begins.

Keep in mind that lying is also a sign of disrespect, not just dishonesty. Another thought to consider is that you waste a lot of your time and another person’s time if the lies are those that make or break the situation.

The thought of attracting more people to your profile is a tempting idea, but with the fear of redundancy, is it the right type of people that you are drawing to you?

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First, let’s get the obvious out of the way. Let’s say you are online looking for a perfect match. You strike up a conversation with a great person, chat for a while and arrange the first meeting. When you finally see each other, that person does not look the same, his or her name is…