Dating Tips For Shy Guys

In this article, we will go through my dating tips for shy guys. I’m shy. There, I said it. When I was little, everyone thought I was cute because I was shy. As an adult, everyone that didn’t know me thought I was a jerk and didn’t like them because I didn’t go out of my way to make friends. Somehow along the way, grownups have to stop being shy. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work this way. Such is the life of an adult male trying to date.

If you are a shy guy, you know how hard it is dating women, let alone even finding a woman to date. Since I’ve had many dates, I’m here to present to you with what I’ve found to work. Hence the title, dating tips for shy guys. So sit back and take some notes. I will walk you through dating tips for shy guys from meeting women through the date and even what to do afterward.

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Here Are A Few Dating Tips For Shy Guys

Finding and Meeting Women

Finding and approaching women as a shy guy is incredibly difficult. I can count on one hand how many women I actually approached in person. I quickly accepted the fact that it just wasn’t for me. Plus, with technology and a little bit of thinking outside the box, I was able to meet many women. Here is how you meet women.

Find Common Interest

When you are interested in a woman, you need to find a common interest that you share quickly. This will allow you to draw comfort in the fact that you are talking about something that you enjoy. You will be more focused on this than the fact that you are actually talking to a woman.

The best way to find a common interest is to join clubs or groups. I used Meetup.com a lot when I was single. Most times, I was just doing the activities I enjoyed, but there were some singles groups that you can join as well. The key is to join groups that interest you, not join groups that you think there will be a ton of available women at.

When you are in a club or group doing things you enjoy doing, you know that the other people enjoy it as well. Therefore, you can easily strike up a conversation with a woman in the group.

Find A Friend

The old wing-man trick never gets old. If you have a friend that is outgoing, use him to start the conversations. This worked like a charm for me many times. One night, in particular, we went down to the city and were having a good time. He saw a small group of women and went up to them and started talking to them. A few minutes later, he called me over, and suddenly we were making plans to go to another bar with a group of women from Brazil.

Try Online Dating

Online dating is the greatest gift to the shy guy and probably is the easiest one of the dating tips for shy guys to begin doing. Once you pick the right site for you and create a detailed profile, you can start searching for women.

Don’t get discouraged if no one responds to your emails. Online dating is a numbers game, and people not replying happens to everyone. Just take notes along the way. Try different approaches and find out what works and then stick with that. Once you figure out how things work best online, you will be going on plenty of dates.

Dating Tips For Shy Guys: Going On The First Date

Now we come to the dating portion of this post. You’ve met a great woman online or through a friend, and now comes time for the date. Here are my dating tips for shy guys when it comes to actually dating.

Pick An Activity To Do

I’m sure you know not to go to the movies on a first date since you can’t really talk and get to know your date. The fallback plan for many guys seems to be dinner. This is great for many, but not for shy guys. Dinner allows for too many nerves to present themselves. Instead, pick an activity to do. Doing this solves two major issues shy guys have:

• It helps you to focus all of your nervous energy on the task at hand as opposed to being awkward or weird in front of your date
• It helps you to stop thinking nervous thoughts about the date itself

I personally love activity dates. If you are having a tough time coming up with some date ideas, check out my cheap dates post for help. Of course, if you are going to be doing anything active, clear it with your date first and let her know what the plan is so that she can dress appropriately.

Stop Judging

As a shy guy, it’s easy to judge and pick things apart. The more you judge yourself in your mind, the more you are focusing on you as opposed to her. When you start thinking about how you should have said this or done that, catch yourself and remember to focus on her. Chances are, she didn’t even notice anything odd. Just keep the date moving along.

Fix Awkward Silences

Awkward Silences can be the death of a shy guy. We start telling ourselves to think about something to talk about, which puts more pressure on us, which pushes us farther from the goal of actually thinking of something to talk about.

Here is how you solve this issue: simply repeat what she just said, but add a question mark to the end of it. If she is talking about her trip to Europe, simply say, “Wow, Paris, what was that like?” and you are all set. Of course, you can’t just do this all night long. You will have to think about other things to talk about, but this is an easy trick to eliminate some awkward silences.

Show Interest

This is one of the dating tips for shy guys that we forget too many times. We never show interest. The woman might have had a great time, but she is left wondering if you really liked her and then begins to question her feelings as well. Avoid this by showing interest in her. Here are some easy ways to show interest

• Smile at her
• Look her in the eye
• Hold the door for her
• Touch her on the arm
• Make flirty jokes with her
• Face her

These are easy things you can do to show her you are interested in her and can easily be done without having to think.

Be Honest

I’ve found that telling the woman that I am shy goes a long way in me succeeding with her. When she knows that I am shy, it makes sense to her why I might have been a little awkward when we first met or why I stumbled on my words a few times.

With that said, I don’t just come out and tell her I am shy. I find a way to work it into my story. If you can do the same, you will find that not only will she be more at ease, but so will you as well.

After The Date

After the date is over is the time to end the night on a good note and set up things for a second date. Many shy guys fail at this juncture as well. But setting things up for another date is very easy. First, you have to reiterate your interest in her. If you had a fun time with her, tell her that you did. Make it known.

From there, you need to leave the door open for a second date. If you feel really good about how the date went, you should set up the second date right there. Many women like a guy that takes charge. If you were listening to her talk all night, you should have some ideas of other things that interest her. Maybe she said she loved going to the art museum while in Paris. Tell her that since she loved the art museum in Paris so much, how about you take her to the art museum in the city? She will love that you took the initiative for a second date and that you were listening to her.

If you aren’t up to the task of asking her out for a second date, simply tell her you had a great time and that you would really enjoy a second date. If she agrees, tell her you will call her and actually call her. Too many guys tell this to women and never do so.

If you have no intention of calling her, don’t tell her you will. Simply tell her you had a good time and leave it at that or be honest and tell her you just weren’t feeling it.

Dating Tips For Shy Guys – Final Thoughts

These dating tips for shy guys will hopefully help you better navigate the dating world. Dating can be tough for shy guys. I’ve made it a point to learn things and take notes along the way. I am still shy, but I am much more confident and outgoing than I was before. I don’t think I will ever not be shy, and I am OK with that. It is who I am. If you can accept who you are and learn to still date while being shy, you will be a much stronger person in the long run.

In this article, we will go through my dating tips for shy guys. I’m shy. There, I said it. When I was little, everyone thought I was cute because I was shy. As an adult, everyone that didn’t know me thought I was a jerk and didn’t like them because I didn’t go out of…